Today we’re getting to know John Lucas, marriage and family therapist and author of Power and Intimacy in Relationships. John and I first met when we were both students at Biola University. As you can see, he’s been busy ever since!
Where do you live?
Murrieta Ca. 1 hr north of San Diego.
Tell us something about yourself.
I grew up in San Jose and then San Diego. When I was younger I liked playing golf. In my 20’s I became interested in Christianity. Once I became interested in Christianity I also found myself more interested in people and wanting to help others improve their lives. Those desires lead me to becoming a Marriage and Family Therapist. As a young married man I started working as a mailman down in San Diego with a goal to going to night school. I ended up working as a mailman for 17 yrs. After graduating from San Diego State we moved up to Murrieta and I started working as a counselor. The idea of writing a book started a few yrs ago.
What inspired you to write this book/article/piece?
Developing some ideas to help the married couples I work with drove me to put them into words. I was also led to a small local publisher who liked my ideas and wanted to help me. That publisher gave me the confidence that I could put them into words. My oldest sister, who goes by the pen name of Linda Conrad, has written several small romance novels and that helped me believe I could write a book as well.
How did you choose the title?
The title was something that took some time to work out. I wanted the title to reflect my principles and at the same time help the reader understand the concepts of the book. I shared an earlier title with people and did not get such a positive response. After talking with my editor, we came up with a revised title.
What obstacles did you encounter in getting this book published? How did you overcome them?
After writing a large portion of my book, the local publisher said he wasn’t interested in publishing books. He said I might do better with self-publishing. I was down hearted. Little did I realize it was a blessing. I found a private editor off the web. I had to come up with the money for an editor and that was challenging but she allowed me to pay in increments.
In using my own editor I was allowed to see the material chapter by chapter. That slow process over several months actually worked out well. I was able to rethink my material and redo my ideas. My editor knew I was a new writer and she was able to be patient with me as I redid major portions of the material she already edited. She first started by editing the material conceptually. Once we had the concepts down she went back over the material and edited it grammatically. Amazon does a great job with little cost to help writers publish their material.
How did you know you wanted to be a writer? How did you get started?
I have always been somebody that likes to dream, and create through ideas. That is part of what I like about my job as a counselor. I am able to think about ideas and concepts and try to apply them in daily life. That process is very similar to writing. While working with my clients I would share my ideas and concepts with my clients. They in turn would ask me if there was a book out there that I would recommend that covered those ideas. Since there wasn’t, I decided to make one.
Do you have any writing rituals?
I like to be alone and have long periods of time. Unfortunately that wasn’t always the case.
Did you learn anything from writing and publishing this book? What?
One, I learned that editing is the most critical part of writing. I spent 6-8 months writing my book and 8-10 months working with an editor.
If you were doing it all over again, what would you do differently?
I was lucky and wouldn’t change a thing.
What types of books do you like to read? Who are your favorite authors? Why?
I like self-help books. I like to grow and it also helps my work. I like John Maxwell, Chuck Swindoll, Cloud and Townsend.
Are you working on your next book? What can you tell us about it?
This power and intimacy formula can be applied to various areas of our lives. I am considering the areas of parenting, addictions, work, and church.
What is the best advice you could give other writers about writing or publishing?
As I mentioned before, editing is crucial.
Who is the perfect reader for your book?
The perfect reader for my book is someone that would like to improve their marriage and would like some simple format that fits both a psychological and Biblical model.
Where can readers learn more about you and your book?
Interested in an author interview? Leave a comment and I’ll get back to you.
Up next: What Makes You a Writer? followed by How to Avoid Sneezing By Email. See ya soon!